Here’s a secret about your mind:

It’s determined to prove itself right on all accounts no matter what.

While watching the new hit series “Making a Murderer” I remembered one of the truest things about our minds: they are willing to fight to the death to be right.

Now whether you’re familiar with the story line of “Making a Murderer” or not, and whether you believe in his guiltiness or innocence, there is one obvious truth: people are determined to make their stories true even if it means sending a man to jail without considering he may be innocent or release him from jail even though he may be guilty.

That’s madness!

But that’s how our minds work.

Think about your life. When you’re in a situation where you are confronted with information that goes against something you’ve believed to be true for a long time, do you resist the new information? Or do you gladly accept the new information as truth?

Most likely, you resist.

You’ve pre-determined information about the people around you and yourself. When new information proves your illusion of others or yourself to be wrong, your ego doesn’t know what to do, so it resists.

Your mind would rather be dead right than admit that it had a false illusion.

The trouble with this is plentiful.

Think about how your idea of someone you’ve heard gossip about shifted your perception of this person. You don’t even know if the information is true, yet your mind is now determined to believe it.

Often people will assert the truth of stories they weren’t witness to or even involved in. This directly impacts the other person being spoken about and it’s only being shared to assert the illusion being created.

We do this constantly. Just the other day, my partner and I got into a fight because I was determined that his intention for sharing information was something it wasn’t. I was determined to be right about his intention rather than to listen the only person that knew his real intention: him.

That’s how powerful this need to be right is.

Now let me be clear, I believe strongly in trusting your gut instincts and not trusting somebody or something else in front of those instincts, but I also acknowledge the difference between gut instincts and the mind’s need to be right.

It is not only our privilege in this abundant world, but also our responsibility in this lifetime to discern the difference between the two. Our lives become better, our relationships become easier and more thoughtful, and we begin to see the world through a fresh perspective that isn’t constantly in an attack and defend position.

So whether you believe a person is guilty or innocent, kind or malicious, and thoughtful or manipulative – consider that your mind might be wrong. Open yourself up to seeing through the opposite perspective’s lens. Not only will you open yourself up to a new way of living, but you’ll open up the full potential of your relationships.